In a world filled with diversity, each person we interact with would be nice, kind, considerate, mindful, generous, and more. Some would understand our jokes and some won’t, some will act like us, some will be the exact opposite. Nevertheless, some people drive us crazy, make us angry and tread on our last nerves, automatically we
In a world filled with diversity, each person we interact with would be nice, kind, considerate, mindful, generous, and more. Some would understand our jokes and some won’t, some will act like us, some will be the exact opposite. Nevertheless, some people drive us crazy, make us angry and tread on our last nerves, automatically we dislike such people. So you wonder if it will ever be possible to be nice to someone who annoys you all the time, drives you crazy and always on your nerves or just learn to like every person you meet regardless.
So as a smart person that you are, you have to understand that:
1. You Can’t Like Everybody: For the fact that you believe you are a good person doesn’t necessarily make you a good person. Your value creates your judgement, and what you value will always and forever be different with someone else so that creates disagreement. Once you accept that you cannot like everybody because of their difference in values, you will be able to take out emotions in any disagreeing situations. That may even result in getting along better by agreeing to disagree.
2. You Need To Create Your Space: The obvious fact is that you don’t like the person, there’s absolutely no need to go closer to a negative vibe. The best thing to do is to create your space, know when to answer and when to keep mute, that way everybody knows their boundaries. If at your office, move to another conference room or sit at the other end of the table. Create your distance, perspective, and empathy, after a while you can come back and interact both with those people you like and those you don’t like as if nothing happened.
3. You Can Speak Up: If someone constantly pisses you off, calmly and quietly let them know that their behavior or communication style is a problem. Don’t accuse, just state your discrepancies and move on, example “When you cut me off in meetings, I feel like you don’t value my contributions.” Then, take a moment and wait for their response. You may realize at the end of the day that the person didn’t do it on purpose.
4: You Need To Focus: No matter how hard you try, they’re people that will eventually piss you off by just coughing, instead of thinking about how annoying that person is, focus on why you are reacting the way you are. Sometimes what we don’t like in others is frequently what we don’t like in ourselves. Besides, they didn’t create the button, they’re only pushing it. Locate all the things that triggers your anger, then you will be able to anticipate, soften, or even alter your reaction because it is easier to change your perceptions, attitude, and behavior than to ask someone to be a different kind of person.
Getting along with people you don’t like might look like an energy draining activity, but its a matter of decision. You decide if you want to be annoyed or you choose to stay happy. These 4 tips I have shared will help you handle well meaning people you don’t like.